“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
Everyone has something unique to offer the world.
And that is what makes it so wonderful. If we were all the same then life would be extremely boring. Therefore, it’s a shame that we are all so focused on what other people are doing that we neglect our own wonderful qualities.
I know it can be hard not to get overwhelmed by everyone else’s highlights, especially with social media. However, remind yourself that those are just that, their highlights. Not many people broadcast the unimpressive aspects of their lives. Therefore, it is easy to get caught up and feel like you aren’t as far along, successful or happy as other people.
Remember, no one’s life is exactly as it seems on social media.
Don’t let other people’s happiness get you down. You have no idea what is going on behind the scenes that they don’t showcase. Everyone’s story is different and has their own plot twists. The last thing you want to do is miss out on truly living and enjoying yours because you are so focused on what other people are doing.
You will never find happiness in comparison.
For some reason, us humans love to compare ourselves with each other. And as a consequence, never seem satisfied with what we do have.
Even when we reach a goal we might feel good about ourselves for a while, but that pride is usually quick to diminish. Due to the habit of comparison, you will be quick to find people who accomplished what you did, but ‘better’, or who seem to be further along than you.
Additionally, the harder you look, the more people you will find who seem to be “better than you.” And it’s true.
No matter who you are, there will always be someone better, smarter, stronger or fast than you at something. So, why waste your time feeling bad about yourself and getting upset?
You could be focusing your time on nurturing your strengths and celebrating all your highlights. This will both allow you to flourish at what you are good at, while also increasing your happiness and quality of life.
Remember, people are comparing themselves to your highlights as well.
It is very easy to get wrapped up in comparing yourself to others.
Consequently so, that you probably don’t even realize that other people are comparing themselves to you as well. Your life and the lives of those around you are all about your perception of them.
Most people view others with a greater lens than they view themselves. As a result, you are more likely to be a harsher critic on yourself. Therefore, many people fail to see their wonderful qualities.
Moreover, you could be wishing you had something someone else has, and they could be looking at you wishing they had something you have.
I have a great example of this, which I’ll try to put into a short and sweet story for you: I was in the gym a few weeks ago and there was this girl squatting 225 pounds. That has been my goal for a while. Unfortunately, I was having issues with my hip and could only do lighter front squats. So, me thinking she was super awesome, decided to tell her how impressive she was (after comparing my weak half of her weight squat to mine). She then responds by saying that she was impressed with me and my workout, and added that she was never able to do front squats (her then comparing herself to me).
So here I was, wishing I could do what she did, while she was wishing she could do what I did.
Other people’s successes are not your failures.
Everyone’s journey will be different. Additionally, everyone has different strengths, weaknesses and purposes in life. Furthermore, when someone else achieves something great, that does not take away from your own achievements or life.
Some people will get the job of their dreams right out of school and have their forever career in their early twenties. Others will have many different jobs, and many never have one life long career. Neither are wrong. So if you are still in school, or have been out of school for a while and still don’t know what you’re doing, relax. As long as you are able to support yourself and find some joy in your work, keep doing what you’re doing.
Not everyone will marry their high school sweetheart and have three kids before they’re thirty. If you do, then great, good for you! However, if you don’t, that’s ok. Focus on you and improving yourself so that you can one day be the best spouse and parent you can be. In the mean time, do yourself a favour and stop resenting your happily committed friends. Celebrate your friends relationships, learn to be truly happy for them. You will find your person some day, so don’t rush it. The rest of your life is a long time to be with somebody, so make sure you are ready for it when it comes.
True joy in life comes from being genuinely happy from others.
Once you can be truly happy for another’s success, without feeling as though it takes away from your life, you will feel an immense relief and contentment in your life. This is something that may prove to be challenging for some people. However, if you can master this skill, it will change your life.
Remember, just because someone else achieved something great, does not mean that you do not have wonderful accomplishments of your own.
You will miss out on so much of your own talents if you continuously look at the gifts you don’t have. Conversely, if you change your perspective, you will see more things in your own life to celebrate.
Additionally, by staying focused on your life you will be able to tap into your own strengths. And will therefore improve your overall life and increase your happiness.
Quitting the comparing habit is a crucial key for self love and happiness.
Loving yourself and your life isn’t about being perfect. Nor is it about having everything that you think you need in order to be seen as successful.
The moment that you realize that you are already more than enough now, is when you will achieve true success, self love and happiness.
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