Can you imagine how different your life would be if you had nothing to complain about?
Living a happier life isn’t complicated. It just involves becoming aware of what you focus your attention on.
Every where we look we are bombarded with bad news and negativity to complain about.
Tragedies, politics, the weather, your waistline… the list goes on. And these are just some of the many topics that people give their energy to and spread around.
Have you ever noticed that practically all of the news both on TV and online is bad news?
Or that the majority of conversations people have are negative? Whether it’s about our job, the President or the latest devastation, we tend to be constantly complaining about something.
The issue is that we are surrounded with negativity. Additionally, this negativity gives us easy conversational topics. In fact it has practically become human nature to constantly complain and talk about all the bad around us. Furthermore, it is not that we are consciously trying to bring more bad things into our lives, it’s just become a habit.
Like attracts like.
he more you talk about all of the crap in your life and the world, the more crap you will bring into your life to talk about.
Therefore, if you want to bring more good things into your life you have to start looking for and talking about the good things that are already around you.
Optimistic people seem to be a minority now-a-days. In order to stop from getting sucked into the ease of complaining, people have to be more creative and practice being optimistic. Although this can make it harder for people to break out of their comfortable habit of complaining, it is not impossible.
Therefore, to help you break the habit I’ve compiled some tips to help you live a happier life:
- Stop watching the news (or at least so often). Especially first thing in the morning and before bed. Almost all news segments have tragedies and do not leave you feeling optimistic about the world. So refrain from starting or ending your day with someone spewing negativity into your mind.
- Use that time you used to watch the news, or just make the time in your routine, to get your mind going in the right direction. Think or write about all of the things you are grateful for, looking forward to, and/ or something good that happened during the day. It may sound cheesy, but I guarantee you will feel more excited about the day and sleep better at night.
- Think before you speak. Is what you are about to say going to make you or the people around you feel better or worse? If it’s the latter, think of a different conversational topic.
- Listen to the words of those around you, make it a game to look for the good in every conversation. Make it a goal to start the conversation on a positive note. Or turn whatever other people are saying around and put a positive spin on it. Yes, this will be hard at first, but the more you do it the better you will get at it.
- Decrease time on social media. I know, I know, “but how will I know what’s going on in the lives of everyone I know, their Grandmother’s and random strangers on the internet??” If you must go online, limit your browsing time and unfollow accounts that are constantly bringing up tragedies or complaining about their lives. And please for the sake of all that’s good, stop comparing yourself to people who appear to have their lives together and seem to be doing better than you. Remember, most people post their highlights and hide their struggles. If you do choose to go on social media, use to be a light in the world. To spread good news, look at pictures of puppies, write nice comments. And most importantly, avoid the urge to join in on insulting comment section or sharing bad news.
Small changes in your thoughts can lead to big changes in your life.
Depending on your current habits, this list may seem like a huge task, so start small. Pick the one on the list that looks the most doable and start there.
Notice the difference that just one small change can make in your life and overall happiness.
Being optimistic in a world that appears to have so much to complain about can be a challenge.
However, happiness is contagious. Therefore, start within and watch how changing your outlook on life not only effects your own happiness, but the lives of those around you as well.
I challenge you to go one full day without complaining, to change the subject every time someone is negative or complains to you and tell me that you don’t feel significantly better about yourself and the world.