What’s stopping you from being happy right now?
You might be thinking that if you could just lose the extra weight that you would finally be happy.
But why do you think that will make you happy?
Why do you really want to lose that weight?
Is it because you think that other people will like you more? Or do you think you will attract your soul mate? Or maybe, you think that once you lose a few more inches off your waist that you will finally love yourself?
First of all, other people do not notice that extra five pounds, and if they do it’s because you pointed it out, they are insecure about their own weight, or they’re just a jerk, so who needs them.
You are the only person who notices that extra 5 pounds.
Next, I really hope that your soul mate isn’t just standing around waiting for you to lose weight before they make a move. Someone who really loves you will love you at whatever weight you are, because they are more attracted to the person you are on the inside than on the outside. Plus, do you really want someone who likes you solely based on your body? What happens when you get old and wrinkly? You better hope they find attractive qualities inside of you that won’t change with age.
Lastly, if you don’t love and accept your body the way it is now, you will not be happy with it in 5, 10 or 20 pounds. You will always think you can lose just a few more inches, or that you can look a little better. You will be stuck in a constant stage of misery because you are basing your happiness and self worth on your outer appearance. An appearance that you will constantly be looking for flaws in and trying to change. No matter how much improvement you’ve made. Furthermore, if you only love yourself for your body, then why would you expect anything less from others?
Learn to be grateful for the body you have before you try and change it.
Now, I want you to honestly ask yourself, in the grander scheme of life, what is really important to you?
Is having abs your main priority?
Reaching a certain level in your career?
Spending time with family and friends?
Enjoying your life?
Do you really want to look back on your life and realize that you missed out on events and social activities because you were more worried about your diet, than about spending time with loved ones?
What fun is having ‘abs’ if you spend all your time doing food prep or in the gym?
I know how much fun it is. And the answer is: it’s not.
For some reason, society has put a lot of importance on our physical appearance, with an emphasis on having the ‘perfect body’.
And I get it, I’ve been there. Caught up in looking for self-love in abs, and believing that in order to be accepted or good enough I had to look a certain way. I was so caught up that I allowed fitness and “dieting” to take over my life.
And you know what, I achieved it. I had ‘abs.’ But I still wasn’t happy. I still didn’t feel good enough… The worst part? I had prioritized my eating and workout schedule over my social life and my family. It took me longer than I would like to admit, but I finally realized that I was missing out on my life.
The last thing you want is to wake up one day and realize that you missed out.
Don’t waste the best years of your life being so focused on changing yourself that you miss out on what really matters. Find the balance between caring for your body and caring for your soul. Eat healthy foods and exercise when you can, but don’t prioritize it over your family and friends. In the end, nurturing your soul and making memories are just as important for your overall health as eating vegetables. Therefore, you are in no way the epitome of health if you miss out on social gatherings to stay home and eat your plain chicken and broccoli.
Sure, it might be a nice achievement to look back at pictures and be proud of what you attained… but wouldn’t you rather have pictures capturing memories with the ones you love?
I don’t know about you, but I think that this girl, who is 20 pounds heavier than the “skinny” picture, looks a lot happier and healthier. Through finding the balance with a more flexible workout schedule and “diet,” not only am I healthier than I was before, but I have made many memories, ones that I know I would not have made if I had never realized what really matters to me.